Christmas has become too commercialized. Since when did it become bigger than birthdays? Not everyone enjoys it either. So much guilt is generated around this holiday. Not everyone gets along with their family or wants to spend time with them. I really don’t want my kids to feel obliged to visit me for Christmas. As much as I love my kids, if they want to be somewhere else, then fine. I would rather not guilt trip them about it and see them when they are happy to come around of their own accord.
I haven’t spent Christmas with my parents for years. I don’t even live in the same country as they do! Are they alone? No! Granted, the holiday isn’t the same without me…hehe! Sure, I like decorating the house and giving gifts. But when did the gift giving be the all important aspect of Christmas as it seems to be today? What pressure there is in these austere times for parents to ‘give’ to their kids when many are struggling to pay the bills. It would be really interesting if the kids told their parents not to worry about a present this year because they know it hasn’t been easy since mom or dad got laid off from work ( or any other scenario where a family is struggling). I somehow don’t see that happening.
When my children asked me what I wanted for Christmas, I honestly couldn’t think of anything. I have all the ‘stuff’ that I really need, as well as stuff that I don’t really need. When I asked my sweetheart what he wanted, he couldn’t think of anything he wanted either. When he asked me what I wanted, well, I couldn’t think of anything. I don’t need anymore diving equipment, or art supplies right now. I don’t need clothes or shoes or handbags. I don’t need furniture or accessories. I haven’t seen anything that jumps out at me and screams, ‘buy me!’ There isn’t anything that I really want. I would rather save the money for a great night out or a holiday.
In this run up to Christmas, I have had some free time on my hands to get ready for the big event. Actually, it is in two parts as my daughter will be away for Christmas and so she came to visit me this past weekend. I spent the week before running around like a mad woman getting all the shopping and decorating done before she arrived. It was exhausting. The upside to that is I don’t have to run around like a mad woman this week before my son comes down for Christmas Part 2.
What I enjoyed most about spending Christmas Part 1 with my daughter was the fact that she was here and I got to spend some time with her. Sitting with my family at the dinner table is more important to me than presents. Sharing time and making memories can’t take the place of a new sweater or any other item.
I am really looking forward to Christmas Part 2. I haven’t seen my son since August as he has been away at University. I could care less about a present. All I really want is to spend time with my family and loved ones.
I hope you all have a wonderful Christmas Holiday!